Rolling Along

My ill-advised relationship came to a sputtering end this past week as he packed his stuff out of my house and headed back to California. The last week had him sleeping on my couch, moping around the house and heaving heavy sighs. On several occasions he proclaimed that he didn’t understand what went wrong. I would restate my position… using small words. He would heap the passive aggressive martyrdom on the Facebook minions. Many of my friends had ‘friended’ him in a sign of support for our relationship wondered if he was really sleeping on a bench in the park as he insinuated. He was a very interesting fellow… if you didn’t dig too deep. The day he left, we hugged and I wished him luck. He maintained that we would stay in touch… and then he blocked me.

Good Riddance!

The sad part is that the whole reason I sought out this transfer was to be in the same town as my son as he went through his senior year and one of the MAJOR reason I finally grew a set and ended it was when I learned that he had flipped off my son’s girlfriend as she walked past my house. Not only was it bad that a grown assed man flipped off a 16 year old girl that he didn’t know, but he denied it even happened… because there are just scores of 6’5” black men living in this town that just happened to be smoking a cigarette outside my house as she walked by.

As I posted before, he was jealous, immature and paranoid. Anytime I spoke to, or even looked at another guy I was peppered with 20 questions with the insinuation that I was having sex with the individual. Initially, I would explain exactly how I knew the individual and say how ridiculous it was to think I was sexually involved or even attracted to them. Instead of accepting my explanation he accused me of lying.. which makes me irritated.

Honestly, he wasn’t my “type” in any way… except the sex. Damn… that was good!

For the foreseeable future… no relationship, no hookups. I’m going to focus on ME, my KIDS and my JOB. On balance 2014 has been a good year. My Joy Jar is full and I’m looking forward to opening it up on 01/01/15… stay tuned.

EXCELSIOR!

A Quick Update

I knew it has been a while since my last post, I just didn't realize how long.


Shortly after that last post, I was offered a promotion to a supervisory position at work. It has been quite a learning curve and there have been many challenges. I was talking to a colleague on Friday; she said that she has been impressed by how determined I have been to be successful in this position. Mainly I just want to prove to myself, and my mentor that I was the right choice for the job. I've always believed that the more frightening the prospect, the more worthy the accomplishment.


The new position is stationed in a town 30 miles from where I had been living the past three years. I spent a little over a month commuting, before moving in August. I enjoy being back in Pendleton. There is much more to life here... good music, good beer... good people.


Two weeks after I moved, I met a guy. We hit it off right away and have had a lot of fun. It's been three months, but there are things that make me doubt the prospects of the relationship lasting into the new year. That's all I'm going to say about it right now...


My weightloss journey has stalled... I haven't been to the gym for three months (one of the "issues" I alluded to in the previous paragraph has prevented it). The good news is that I haven't gained back anything significant. Calling it a stall is appropriate. On a positive note, October 28th was the one year surgi-versary. I can still say that I weigh 127 lbs less than I did one year ago.


If you're still reading this... thank you.


Stand by... there should be more to say soon.

The more you know…

Parts of this are laughable…

Your result for The Gay Cliques Test...

The Daddy

35% Twink, 64% Bear, 70% Daddy, 47% Cub, 51% Otter, 50% Pup, 62% Muscle_Pup, 62% Wolf and 43% Gym_Bunny!

You are The Daddy. You are perfect husband material. Based on your hair color, there is a possibility you fit into the sub-catagory Silver Fox. Normally tall with average to little hairiness, your dominance and manly charm rub off onto those around you. You frequently dominate the gay world with your charming personality. Your looks only get better with age, and you try to attract the attention of younger boys who have daddy-issues. When you were younger you were probably a Pup, Otter, or Wolf. You are attracted to Wolfs, Twinks, Otters, and Pups. Normally not other Daddies however, as they are you competition.

Read the descriptions of all the other quiz posibilities below!

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Off to a disappointing start…

I have mentioned in a few of my previous posts that I have met someone who is looking pretty special. The largest obstacle comes from the fact that he lives 90-miles away and is currently car-less. Last month when people were marking 12/12/12 with weddings due to the perceived significance of that date… I was meeting Greg.

Thus far in my journey on this rock I have had less than successful relationships. A sham of a marriage in an effort to be normal, a partnership with a man who stole from me, cheated on me and felt I should give him one more chance as I was placing his things in the driveway and a very short lived run with a younger guy who found great cultural significance in the work of those girls who’s only claim to fame is a 72 day marriage and a smokin’ hot sex tape. So I’m trying to keep my head about me as our relationship approaches the one month mark.

As for the title of this post, he was supposed to have a ride here tonight so we could spend the weekend together. It turns out his ride is unreliable, so he may or may not make it tomorrow. Normally, I like my quiet Friday evenings with the kitties… tonight I’m feeling alone. Like someone important is missing.